It’s midnight. You’re in bed. You should be asleep, but all you can think about are the dishes in the sink. The next morning when you get up you pull clothes from a stack of clean clothes–not the closet. Before the kids get on the bus, you hand them lunch money because you didn’t get a lunch packed for them. This morning, you’ll stop by the store and buy a cake for your son’s birthday party because you didn’t have time to make one for him. And in the evening as you clean up dinner you sigh to yourself and wonder how another week went by without your getting a chance to get a single family devotional in. And you feel guilt… More days than not you are reminding yourself of all the things you didn’t get done for your children. The guilt piles up. All the other moms can keep their houses clean and make meals for their families–why can’t you? But the truth is…
Years ago (more than I care to share), as a teenager I was told I would be unable to conceive. Staying pregnant was not a foreseen problem. Getting pregnant was. I have always wanted nothing more than to be a mother. Being told that the one thing I really wanted to do with my life was not a possibility, was devastating. I was as heartbroken as any emotional teenager would be. Over the years, I continued to talk to my doctors, and they all reaffirmed this detrimental diagnosis. I went into this marriage completely honest with my husband–we would never get pregnant. We knew 100% it wasn’t going to happen–after all, every doctor I had ever talked to about the issue had confirmed this without a doubt.
*This post contains affiliate links. If you click on one and make a purchase, I may make a small commission at no cost to you. Thank you for supporting this site.* Young children whine. Even the most well behaved child will whine on occasion. As parents, we want to help our children mature into adults that don’t whine. And let’s face it, the sooner they learn to stop, the better. Will they grow out of it on their own? Perhaps. But we can never simply just assume that they will. In fact, in our present culture we only need to really look around us to see adults that still have not “grown out of it.” But there is good news. We don’t have to simply wait it out. The parent who desires to intentionally deal with this specific issue can come at it with a plan. It won’t be easy, and it will take time—but most things that are worth it take time.
Do you have whining children? There’s good news—you’re not alone. You’re not even close to being alone. Whenever a mother of young children confides in me she doesn’t understand why her children whine so much or asks if she has done something to cause it, it’s important to convey to her that it’s natural for young children to exhibit this behavior, and she didn’t cause it. Her parenting techniques combined with the child’s personality and learning experiences may not have helped the situation—but she didn’t cause it. Mothers don’t sit around at the dinner table and cue their children, “Now repeat after me Honey… but I don’t want to eat my broccoli…” Children at various points learn to do this all on their own. Instead of feeling guilty or even feeding the temptation that you “just have” whiny children, first take a look at why children whine. This can help us to understand how to shepherd them in a loving way away from the habit—and what to replace it with.
We always tell our children that Jesus loves them. And 99% of us know the song Jesus loves me (this I know) by heart even if we don’t have children. But do we ever stop to celebrate this with our children? We do. Each year after we finish our one week God Loves Me curriculum, we top it off with a Jesus loves me party. A few of us in this area use the curriculum the week of Valentines (or the week before if Valentines falls early in the week) and then have a combined party. Even if you don’t use the curriculum, this party can be a huge hit for you too. Here’s how we do it…
Winter is coming, and soon we’ll all be wanting to snuggle up with our favorite blanket, possibly even by the fire. In fact, winter is pretty much the only time I get to read any books (aside from my bible and some Word studies). No doubt, if you’re an avid reader, then you already have a list of books waiting to entertain you. But just in case you don’t, here are 10 biblical parenting books sure to inspire you, work on your heart, and encourage you to love your children a little bit more. Most are popular enough to be available at most any library.
Telling a child no is a controversial topic. On one side of the debate, there have been entire books published about why we shouldn’t tell our children no. The reasonings repeated most tither from, “It just teaches them to say ‘no’ back to you,” to reasoning like, “They don’t understand when they are young–it just hurts their feelings” and “If you have to tell them ‘no’ it’s because you haven’t been an attentive enough parent to prevent the situation.” Lastly, “they will learn what to do and what not to do in due time.” On the other side of the debate, telling a child no leads to an earlier standard of obedience as well as–let’s face it–it could save their life one day. Which side of the debate are you on?
From the time children are born, we wonder who they will be one day. We try to pick out characteristics from behaviors early in their lives: Oh, what a sweet boy… She’s such a happy girl! As they start to get a little older, we may start to identify behaviors we don’t want them to continue with. Examples would be lying, taking things that aren’t theirs, yelling “No!” when told what to do, bickering with other siblings, etc. Some parents (as well as non-parents) believe a child will “grow out of it.” Some children do. Some children don’t. How will you be able to determine which will or won’t? Hindsight is 20/20, but it’s too late by then if you were aiming for a different outcome. While the starting age is different for each child, many Christians feel compelled (with good reason) to actively teach their children good character building skills. Whether we realize it or not, they are learning these things all on their own–probably from birth. As a parent, or teacher, or Sunday School teacher who wishes to actively and structurally teach good character development, are you lost on where to start or how to start? Here are some tips to […]
As adults, we will come into contact with children. For most of us, this will be often–even if we don’t have children of our own. And at some point, many of us will be the authority over a child or group of children. Weather we are teachers of formal school, homeschool teachers, Sunday School teachers, youth leaders, or VBS instructors–we have at least one thing in common. There will be a difficult child, or group of difficult children. At some point, all children misbehave. If we are the authority figure for a group of children, we realize bad behaviors are bound to happen here and there. Are you equipped to handle this situation? Here are some questions to ask yourself in preparation before you start this journey (or if you’re already there but would like to revamp your approach).
Before I got married, I ran or swam every morning. And many times I would head to the gym for a workout after work. On the weekends, I’d jump in my kayak and hit the water. Once I got married, things changed a little bit since I moved out to the country where there were no gyms, I was afraid of the wilderness (sad, but true), and my Farmer didn’t have the time (or want) to work out. I bought some gym equipment (treadmills, and elliptical, weights, etc.) and set up a space here at home. There’s nothing like getting onto your treadmill and watching the sun come up. But then I started having children… There are no babysitters out here. The obvious answer was to workout while the babe’s slept. But seriously, do you know how loud a treadmill is? I had to figure out something else…