Another month, and another area of prayer focus for our husbands. If you are just joining us, we are committing to chose an area of focus and key scripture to pray over our husbands each and every day for a month at a time. This series is for single women, engaged women, and married women alike. If you would like to go back to the beginning of this series, you are welcome to start here. Also, if you want to pick from a list of prayers we have done so far, check here (though they won’t be in order). It is not necessary to start anywhere specific. If you would like to you can start right here today, and continue to follow along by email (I’ll talk about that later). The most popular prayer for our husbands so far, (in traffic, in Facebook posts, Twitter, Pinterest and by Google search) is Praying Over Your Husband’s Career and Work Ethic. We’ve transitioned away from praying over this area, but I strongly feel it’s time to visit it again with a new focus.
A family’s structure can be weakened by a husband who, although he may be of godly character, lacks full trust that it is God who is providing for His family and not merely his own independent actions. Likewise, when our husband’s confidence of the Lord’s hand in making sure he provides for his family is unshakable, the entire family structure is strengthened. It sounds so easy, but in reality this world is full of unemployment, rising healthcare costs, cars that break down, clothes that wear out and homes that must be kept up. A man’s role as provider for his family can be the number one stressor in his life if he lets it. “Let go and trust God” is much easier said than done most of the time. So what is a wife to do to ease his burden?
I have had the beautiful blessing of traveling all over the world and living in multiple countries. In some areas, women are expected to wait for marriage. Wait until you have a degree. Then, get a good career going. Then wait a little bit longer. Play hard-to-get. Test men. Are they willing to give up their job and follow your career around? If they are, wait a bit longer. You wouldn’t want to get married until you are at least 30–if you do, chances are you might have children, and that would certainly mess up all that education… On the other hand, when I was just 20, I moved to an area where women were either married or at least engaged by the time they graduated from school. Word soon got out that I was single, and I had 6 different young men ask for my hand in marriage. I even got the “if you don’t say yes to one of them soon, you’re going to be an old maid” speech. Unfortunately, I also know firsthand the pain of loosing a husband–and winding up single all over again.
A husband is the head of his family. It doesn’t matter how old he is or how mature, this is the position the Lord gives him. Some husbands are ready for this role. Life has molded them into leaders. They have been given opportunities to lead—growing up in their family, at school, at church, at work. Perhaps they have had as many failures as they have successes, but they have had experience. Stepping into a leadership role once married may be a thrill or it may be awkward—but it isn’t their first rodeo. Other men perhaps have shied away from leading. It may not be because they are “bad” at it, but perhaps they have just preferred to stay “under the radar.” It’s entirely possible that men who have natural leading skills have simply been too shy, humble, or even busy to take on leadership abilities.
Compassion is sometimes a less understood attribute. Kindness, gentleness, or even a smile could all be mistaken for compassion. Even the tendency to keep one’s mouth shut during a negative conversation could also be an act that causes someone to be labeled as compassionate. While all of these things could stem from compassion, they could all also come from a person who is not compassionate at all. Kindness, gentleness, smiling, and keeping quiet can all be automatic learned responses. It is very possible for a person who exhibits all of these responses to be quite uncompassionate. How then, would we define compassion and why would it be desirable in a husband?
Friends, if you’re just joining us, I want to welcome you to our journey. We’re encouraging every single, betrothed, and married woman to devote a part of every day to pray for your husband. We’ve picked 12 key areas to focus on this year, and we’re alternating his earthly physical needs with his relational needs with Christ each month. (You can go here to start at the beginning if you’d like, or join us this month.) This month we’re praying over his evangelism. Have you been with us for the journey? If you have, I can imagine that you (or someone else) is seeing a change and/or strength in your husband. Keep up the fight, warrior women–you’re strengthening your men for their daily battles.
This month as we pray over our husbands, we’re focusing on pride and humility. These two characteristics couldn’t be more opposite from each other. One characteristic is the “worst of all sins” which eventually lead to Satan’s fall. The other is one of the descriptor words most used of Jesus Himself while He tabernacled here on earth among us. With such strong denotations, it would be wise for us to concentrate on both for our husband’s. This month, let’s lift up our men (whether single or still waiting) to the Lord in these areas. Whether you’re single, engaged, or married, join us this month and every other to cover our men in prayer.
Single, engaged, or married, a man needs the prayers of his wife (or future wife). This is where we come in Friends. Ideally, we begin praying for and impacting his life before we even know who he will be. We continue to pray for him through betrothal. And once we are married, though we begin to pray for our marriages, we must not loose sight of continuing to pray selflessly just for him. We are through eight months of prayer for him, and into the ninth month. This month we combine praying for his integrity, his temptations, and his circle of friends.
Are you married? Engaged? Still looking for the one Jesus has separated from this world just for you? If you fit any of these molds, then join us in our one year quest to set ourselves aside and lift up our husbands in prayer. It’s a new month, and that means a new focus. In August, we’re concentrating on his finances.
July brings a new month of continued heat for those of us in the northern hemisphere, and a continued winter in the southern hemisphere. For regular readers, it also means a shift in our prayers for our husbands (or future husbands). This month we are back to praying for his relationship with his Creator. It’s all about worship. For those of you who are new, we are intentionally praying over 12 main areas of our husbands this year, alternating his personal needs with his relationship with Christ. We are not praying specifically for our marriages right now, but rather just for him. We know that if we have strong husbands they will be strong leaders of our families. And it is completely worth it to spend a little part of each day setting ourselves aside and praying just for him. To see how we are doing this, you may want to start at the beginning. And when you are ready, you can start at the beginning or jump right in with us. We have quite the community of prayer warrior wives (and not-quite-yet wives) following along. (Subscribers, I am sending out bookmarks again for your daily bible reading this week, make […]