Praying For Your Mother-In-Law

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Even if your mother in law isn’t the highest woman on your list, you probably owe her tremendously.  Why?

Because if you have a mother-in-law, then you’re either a man who married her daughter, or a daughter who married her son.  She gave birth to the love of your life.

If you have children, then at some point, you realize these sweet little blessings wouldn’t have come into the world without her.  That makes her pretty darn important, yes?

How do you show her love?  How do you treat her like a priority?  How do you handle conflict or concerns?

I love this example God gives us in Mark about Simon making his mother-in-law a top priority–and the compassionate response Jesus has over the situation.

As soon as they left the synagogue, they went with James and John to the home of Simon and Andrew.  Simon’s mother-in-law was in bed with a fever, and they immediately told Jesus about her.  So he went to her, took her hand and helped her up. The fever left her and she began to wait on them.                                                                                          Mark 1:29-31


The text doesn’t give much more information about her here other than she was in bed with “a fever.”  Was it a deadly fever–as would be suggested by her being in bed?  Or was it just a small fever?

I don’t know.

But…does it matter?

She had a fever.  She was not well.  She was with need.

Simon, an attentive son-in-law recognized the need.  Did he call for a doctor? Possibly.  But that isn’t in this story.

What is in this story?  What was the important part God wanted us to recognize when reading this?  They immediately told Jesus about her.  I mean, think about it. Do you really believe He didn’t already know who she was, where she was, or if she was well?  Of course He knew.

This small story is a beautiful example of Simon’s heart.  He immediately told Jesus about her.

And in Jesus’ compassion, He went to her, took her hand and helped her up.


Friends, our mother-in-law is a gift to us.  And even when she looks like she has it all together, she still has needs.  With sin and sickness in this world, she will indeed get fevers now and then.  Some of them we will never know about.  But some will land her in bed–completely knocked down.

We may or may not need to call upon doctors or others to assist her.  But certainly, we should do as Simon did, and immediately tell Jesus about her–even though He already knows.

I firmly believe He will go to her.  I firmly believe prayers are never ignored, even when we can’t see or hear an answer.

In fact, when we don’t see the answer to our prayers, we should keep praying. Pray harder.  Ask the Holy Spirit to help you pray.  And keep watching for an answer.

I encourage you all to make your mother-in-law a priority.  Do the most important thing you can to help her in any way that you can–immediately tell Jesus about her–often.  Is there any way to love someone more?

How do we handle our concerns over our mother-in-laws? See what Simon did--and Jesus' compassionate answer. Do we forget to do this first?

Are you praying for your mother-in-law?  I would love to hear your encouragement.

I continue to tell Jesus about my mother-in-law.  I know He is reaching for her hand.  And I’m praying that one day, she too will choose to take His hand, be healed of her fever, and get up and serve Him.  I’d love if you added her to your prayers as well.


17 thoughts on “Praying For Your Mother-In-Law

  1. This post resonated with me so much. My mother-in-law is going through a very rough time right now (her fever) after loosing my father-in-law to cancer earlier this year. With the holidays approaching I can see it’s just getting harder on her. Thank you for the reminder that we should be lifting up our in-laws every day in prayer. I am praying for you and your family. Thank you for the encouraging post.

  2. I never knew my MIL, as she died right before my husband and I reconnected after several years of no connection. I do pray for my FIL and the rest of my husband’s family. I often wonder about her, especially as the children grow and develop different quirks, some that I’ve heard stories that would connect them to her.

  3. Love this post- as one who started with a major obstacle in the in-law department – it is amazing how God works when I have turned to Him with my concerns and hopes in these circumstances.


  4. Such a great picture and such wise words. I miss my mother-in-law and think of her nearly every day – even though she has been in heaven for 15 years. She was my greatest cheerleader and loved me like one of her daughters. What a gift marriage is!

  5. I have a wonderful mother-in-law. I’m so grateful that she raised my son to be the man that his is!
    My husband and I pray for her regularly. We also help her with practical things (my father-in-law passed away four years ago, so my husband–as the oldest child–feels strongly that he needs to take care of her). I think prayer and this sort of practical help is a great way to enact the love and gratitude we feel for her.

  6. This is excellent! I actually love my mother-in-law. She has taught me so much!… And I also think you are honoring your husband when you show her this kind of love which can only strengthen your marriage… A beautiful example you gave with Simon Peter! Thank you for sharing!

  7. This was such a sweet post. Thank you for the reminder of praying for MIL, and sharing a biblical example of how she should be a priority. Something I look forward to practicing, even if it’s outside of my comfort zone!?

  8. I will keep on praying my mother in law to repent. She does not love all 3 of her daughter in laws. We are all separated/divorced to our spouses.

  9. My mother in law did not raise my husband right and claims to be Christian but seen she never up holds Christian morals and values she influences her son who’s my husband to break up our marriage and caters to his cheating and abusing behaviors she in denial of how she and her son is and is abusive to me and my kids. She likes to control and plays God not Goes to God I do pray but need prayers that will get her to stop trying to control my marriage and my husband and scripture says once a child is married parents have no place in that marriage at all but she acts as if it her marriage and she doesn’t even do right by her own marriage. I find prayers for my husband and our marriage but not to make my mother in law and outsiders to stop controlling and influencing my husband to destroy andchange his beliefs we both mutually share.

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