Welcome to the fifth post of our twelve month series Praying For Your Husband. If you are new to us, I want to welcome you. This series is for teenagers, singles, and married women. No matter where you are in life, it is never too early or too late to begin praying for your husband. We are taking an entire year to set ourselves aside and pray selflessly just for him. Although praying for a husband, and praying for your marriage are very noble, (and I hope you do while you are in these seasons of life), this series is all about him. So far, we have covered praying for your husband’s heart for Jesus, praying for his discernment and leadership, praying that he would be reading his bible, praying for his career, and praying over his prayer life. If you are joining us, feel free to jump right in here, or start from the beginning if you wish. This month, we are focusing on his prayer life.
We’ve all been there. Some of us more often than others, but nonetheless, we all share this dreadful, agonizing experience… We’ve all been attacked. As women, it doesn’t matter how we’ve been attacked or by whom, it turns emotional more than anything. But as Christians, we are called not to act inappropriately with those emotions. One of the fruits of the Spirit is self-control. However appropriate it may be to feel and experience our emotions, when walking in obedience, we must try to control those emotions.
Another month, and another area of prayer focus for our husbands. If you are just joining us, we are committing to chose an area of focus and key scripture to pray over our husbands each and every day for a month at a time. This series is for single women, engaged women, and married women alike. If you would like to go back to the beginning of this series, you are welcome to start here. Also, if you want to pick from a list of prayers we have done so far, check here (though they won’t be in order). It is not necessary to start anywhere specific. If you would like to you can start right here today, and continue to follow along by email (I’ll talk about that later). The most popular prayer for our husbands so far, (in traffic, in Facebook posts, Twitter, Pinterest and by Google search) is Praying Over Your Husband’s Career and Work Ethic. We’ve transitioned away from praying over this area, but I strongly feel it’s time to visit it again with a new focus.
A family’s structure can be weakened by a husband who, although he may be of godly character, lacks full trust that it is God who is providing for His family and not merely his own independent actions. Likewise, when our husband’s confidence of the Lord’s hand in making sure he provides for his family is unshakable, the entire family structure is strengthened. It sounds so easy, but in reality this world is full of unemployment, rising healthcare costs, cars that break down, clothes that wear out and homes that must be kept up. A man’s role as provider for his family can be the number one stressor in his life if he lets it. “Let go and trust God” is much easier said than done most of the time. So what is a wife to do to ease his burden?
A husband is the head of his family. It doesn’t matter how old he is or how mature, this is the position the Lord gives him. Some husbands are ready for this role. Life has molded them into leaders. They have been given opportunities to lead—growing up in their family, at school, at church, at work. Perhaps they have had as many failures as they have successes, but they have had experience. Stepping into a leadership role once married may be a thrill or it may be awkward—but it isn’t their first rodeo. Other men perhaps have shied away from leading. It may not be because they are “bad” at it, but perhaps they have just preferred to stay “under the radar.” It’s entirely possible that men who have natural leading skills have simply been too shy, humble, or even busy to take on leadership abilities.
Compassion is sometimes a less understood attribute. Kindness, gentleness, or even a smile could all be mistaken for compassion. Even the tendency to keep one’s mouth shut during a negative conversation could also be an act that causes someone to be labeled as compassionate. While all of these things could stem from compassion, they could all also come from a person who is not compassionate at all. Kindness, gentleness, smiling, and keeping quiet can all be automatic learned responses. It is very possible for a person who exhibits all of these responses to be quite uncompassionate. How then, would we define compassion and why would it be desirable in a husband?
Sometimes life is messy. At times, being an adult is also messy. Being married is no different. Eventually we all have a messy episode. And sometimes the messy events happen again, and even start to happen more frequently. They last longer. Perhaps there even comes a point when the episode becomes the marriage. There are no longer episodes. Instead, the entire marriage has become a mess. What is a wife to do when the fantasy has disappeared?
Friends, if you’re just joining us, I want to welcome you to our journey. We’re encouraging every single, betrothed, and married woman to devote a part of every day to pray for your husband. We’ve picked 12 key areas to focus on this year, and we’re alternating his earthly physical needs with his relational needs with Christ each month. (You can go here to start at the beginning if you’d like, or join us this month.) This month we’re praying over his evangelism. Have you been with us for the journey? If you have, I can imagine that you (or someone else) is seeing a change and/or strength in your husband. Keep up the fight, warrior women–you’re strengthening your men for their daily battles.
This month as we pray over our husbands, we’re focusing on pride and humility. These two characteristics couldn’t be more opposite from each other. One characteristic is the “worst of all sins” which eventually lead to Satan’s fall. The other is one of the descriptor words most used of Jesus Himself while He tabernacled here on earth among us. With such strong denotations, it would be wise for us to concentrate on both for our husband’s. This month, let’s lift up our men (whether single or still waiting) to the Lord in these areas. Whether you’re single, engaged, or married, join us this month and every other to cover our men in prayer.
Single, engaged, or married, a man needs the prayers of his wife (or future wife). This is where we come in Friends. Ideally, we begin praying for and impacting his life before we even know who he will be. We continue to pray for him through betrothal. And once we are married, though we begin to pray for our marriages, we must not loose sight of continuing to pray selflessly just for him. We are through eight months of prayer for him, and into the ninth month. This month we combine praying for his integrity, his temptations, and his circle of friends.