Even to the best of us.
Some days are wonderful. Everything goes our way. We receive affirmation that the meals we’ve planned are the best our family has ever had. The men in our lives remind us how beautiful we are. The bills are paid and there’s enough money in the bank to put a little more into the savings account. That dream vacation is getting closer and you’ve already got your vacation clothes picked out and packed (and of course they look great on you).
These are the days that are easier for us to praise God. These are the days that are easier during family devotionals to spill our hearts about how great and how generous He is. When we say the grace before our meals we can do it with a spring in our voices and a smile on our faces.
And our children take notice.
But then there are days that aren’t so wonderful. And sometimes, these days turn into weeks, months, or even a year.
Is it still easy to praise God? Are you still spilling your heart during family devotionals about how great and generous our Lord is? Is there still a spring in our voice and a smile on our lips when we turn to God?
How is it that we handle conflict and upset? We could go at it alone. We could try to work our way out of conflict while asking God for His guidance and help. Or we can just give it to Him. Where are you at? Have you even thought about it before?
There’s a cliche` that people throw around, whatever works for you, that seems to suggest that a person should find a way to cope with life’s hand-outs that makes it easiest for him/her to push through the situation and move on.
If our go-to after a bad day is a wine cooler and Facebook, on the surface it may look as though we have found whatever works for us. It may appear to be healthy coping. But what does it communicate to God about how we believe our problems should be handled.
More importantly, what does it say to our daughters? What are we modeling to them?
A wine cooler may suggest that “you just got to do what you can to push through it when things get tough.”
If our go-to is to call a friend and complain about all things in life, this may suggest to our daughters that complaining or dragging others into our problems in the “solution.”
On the other hand, if our go-to is prayer, worship, or our bibles, we are definitely suggesting to our daughters that God is our answer to all things in all situations. Even when we know He is our all-encompassing answer, it is still somehow hard for us to choose to turn to Him instead of complaining or wallowing in our own pity. If for no other reason than our daughters, can we choose to turn to God?
Surely only His hand will reach down and hold us as we go through our rough patches. Surely when we turn to Him in our times of need, He will be our need and things that don’t matter will melt away.
If for no other reason than our daughters are watching, could we use this for motivation?
Has having children ever motivated you to turn to God when you otherwise may have chosen not to? I would love for you to share your story of inspiration.