Praying For Your Husband: Compassion For Others

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Compassion is sometimes a less understood attribute.

Kindness, gentleness, or even a smile could all be mistaken for compassion.  Even the tendency to keep one’s mouth shut during a negative conversation could also be an act that causes someone to be labeled as compassionate.

While all of these things could stem from compassion, they could all also come from a person who is not compassionate at all.

Kindness, gentleness, smiling, and keeping quiet can all be automatic learned responses.  It is very possible for a person who exhibits all of these responses to be quite uncompassionate.

How then, would we define compassion and why would it be desirable in a husband?

Defining Compassion

The full definition of compassion as given by Merriam-Webster Dictionary is: [the] sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it” (emphasis mine).

Compassion begins with being conscious of the distress of others.  At the very heart of compassion is selflessness.  By this definition one feeling one’s own distress does not lead to compassion.  It can only be reached by recognizing the pain or unfortunate circumstance of someone outside of one’s self.

Secondly, compassion has a desire to alleviate the pain or unfortunate circumstance it recognizes.

Seeing a beggar on the street and smiling at him with sympathy as one walks by may appear to be compassionate, but it is not.  Making sure not to step on this person as you walk by continuing to talk on a cell phone is not compassion. Stopping to help or pray with this individual is compassion.  Remembering to pray for him/her later is compassion.  Compassion begets action–through helping, talking to, or praying with and for.

Praying For Compassion In Your Husband

Different communities train up a man in different ways.  Some are brought up to be tough, strong, and rule with an iron fist.  Others are brought up to show their emotion, say whatever is on their mind, wear pink, play with dolls, and go-after what they want because they deserve it.

Either of these situations could very easily produce a man who either has no compassion for others because they should all just “get over it” or who only thinks about himself and what he’s entitled to.  Neither of these are God’s desire for our men.

The Lord tells us,

So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.                                                                                    Romans 14:19

“Pursue” is a verb–a doing word.  The Lord bids us to act toward things which make for peace, and the building up of one another.  This applies to women and men alike.


How Are We To Pray For Our Men?

Pray that your husband’s eyes be open to those around him, and the situations they are in.  If you’re married, and you know your husband already to be sensitive to the needs of others, then pray also for his protection–there are so many out there that are unfortunately trying to scam others.  Pray for discernment and wisdom.

Pray that your husband would have a full circle of wisdom–not concentrating so much on others that he is unable to see the suffering and pains in his own family, church, or circle of friends.  God has also given him a responsibility to these people as well.

Pray for discernment for your husband that he would know how God wishes for him to act.  God may not wish for your husband to give money to every homeless person.  He may simply want him to give them a meal or pray with and/or for them.

Pray for boldness for your husband.  In the name of protection, laws and political correctness are hampering the will of Christians and others to perform the acts of compassion they deeply desire to do.

Pray for creativity in how he will accomplish acts of compassion.  Not all people simply need money or food given to them.  Many people need other things.

Pray for his protection.  That struggling single mom coworker of his?  He may need to simply find others to help her, and ask females in his life to pray for her in order to protect his own heart–and family.


If you have been praying with us for the last year, then hopefully you are already comfortable praying scripture over your husband (or future husband).

If you are new, I encourage you not only to pray for your husband, but to use God’s powerful Word in your prayers.

Here are a list to look at and choose from:

  • Protecting his heart:  Proverbs 4:23
  • Recognizing others:  Colossians 3:12
  • Tenderheartedness:  Ephesians 4:32, 1 Peter 3:8
  • Acts of compassion:  Galatians 6:2, Romans 14:19

Pick one for the month, or one a week.  If you’re already married and you know your husband’s needs, focus on just one.  As always, this is not an all inclusive list. Feel free to choose a different applicable verse of your choice.

I’d love to start our prayer this month…

So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.                                                                                    Romans 14:19

Lord, I lift my husband to you right now and ask that you protect and guide his heart.  Give him open eyes to see the misfortunes of the people you love.  Give him the heart to feel compassion for them as you would feel it.

I pray Lord that you would lay it on his heart to pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of others.  Should he be tempted to tear anyone down, I beg you to immediately put a heaviness on his heart that would make him reconsider.

Please Lord use my husband for peace and carrying out your will for compassion during his time here on earth.

In Your Son’s precious and holy name, Amen.


Your turn Friends.  Build his compassion through interceding by prayer.

Compassion involves two steps which are achieved only by beginning with selflessness. Over and over in God's Word He bids us to have compassion for each other. Our husbands are no different. The world, however, has a different plan for our men. Through prayer, we can seek to empower our men to be who God desires them to be. Single, engaged, or married, join our community in monthly prayer focuses for our husbands. Bible verses for prayer included.

If you picked another verse, would you share with us in the comments?

This has been part of a year of praying for our husbands, and future husbands. Please check out the full year here.


3 thoughts on “Praying For Your Husband: Compassion For Others

  1. My husband was abusing me verbally and mentally with his parents from the day I joined him in UK. Ours was a arranged marriage and we got married in my home country. He is a Christian too but would never go to church. I waited patiently through all the abuse .i just prayed to god to change his heart but he got even I returned to my home country and now he has sent emails via his lawyers asking for divorce and says no reconciliation and marriage was a mistake. His parents are misleading him.i don’t no if he has another affair or if he is gay. Please pray.

    1. The Bible teaches that men should love there wives as they love themselves. Abuse is not Gods plan. Your husband was given free will to choose. Continue to pray but also realize He can give you a better life without your husband if that is how it goes.

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