Welcome to the beginning of our journey to pray for our husbands–our one year plan. If you haven’t already, read the introduction to our journey here. Specifically review how often we’re praying and the goals.
When you’re ready, grab some notepaper (or even better a blank notebook) and a pen and come back.
We start this month focusing on our husband. Not our marriage per se, but just our husband. Throughout this year-long series, we’re putting ourselves aside and putting him first. We’re leaving all selfishness behind just for now. This is about him. Him. Not us. Him. Okay. Got it.
All of January, set aside a part of as many days as you can to pray for your husband. By the end of the year, you should be in the habit of praying for him every day. If you haven’t done this before, give yourself some grace as you get used to it. There’s a lot to pray for each month. That’s what your notes will be good for. If you try to do it all at once, you could get burned out. If you aren’t married, just start with a minute or two each day. If you are married, you may already be used to spending a longer amount of time here.
Praying For His Heart For Jesus
The single most important part of any of our lives is our relationship with Christ. It’s more important than our spouse. It’s more important than our parents. It’s more important than our children. Does that sound heavy? It is. If we want what’s best for our marriages, we must not only be content with playing second fiddle in our husband’s heart, but we must embrace it.
The best marriages come when both partners put Christ first–above each other. As women, we can be jealous. What if we want something but our husband says, “I can’t go tonight Honey, I haven’t read my Bible yet today”? I hope that will grow your affection for your husband–not your anger or jealousy. Because if he starts putting your wants and needs above Christ, you will not have the most fulfilling marriage that He wants for you. You will be placing yourself on the I could have had better list–not God–you.
Pray that your husband puts Jesus above all else. Above people, above money, above education, above careers, fancy cars or big houses.
Part of this that can be overlooked is his salvation. If you are married to an unbeliever, then you are well-aware and have doubtlessly prayed for and likely spilled many tears over your husband. There are two other women to consider here.
The first is the woman who isn’t sure if her husband is saved or not. He claims he is, but she doesn’t see the fruit. To this woman I say keep praying–because only God knows what’s in his heart. It is possible that he hasn’t made Jesus his Savior yet–even if he knows all the stories. When in doubt, keep praying.
The second is the woman who isn’t married. Until you say “I do” you aren’t sure who you will marry. Even if you are engaged–you aren’t married yet. God runs this show. Not you. You best made plans are still subject to His plans for your life. Keep praying for your husband’s salvation because it may not be the man you think it will be.
Are you single? Jesus tells us be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). Have you considered He’s waiting for his salvation before introducing you?
Pray also that Jesus is not only his Savior, but also the love of his life.
Pray that he fears God, lest he become prideful and put his own wishes and plan’s above God’s.
Pray that he trusts God’s plan in every aspect of his life.
Pray that he is able to forgive others as Jesus has forgiven him.
Are you married? Ask your husband, “How can I pray specifically for your heart with Jesus this month?” Write his specific requests on your January notes. Maybe he struggles with one of these areas and you aren’t aware of it. It’s an excellent time to learn more about the heart you are praying for.
Are you in an abusive relationship or in the process of getting a divorce? If you are, and you are strong enough to be reading this, then absolutely pray for your husband’s heart. A change in your husband’s heart could turn him into the man of your dreams. If he’s been abusive or unfaithful to you then after you get away to a safe place (and God absolutely wants you safe and permits divorce in these situations), please pray for him. You deserve peace that you may not be able to get until his heart is right with the Lord and he sincerely apologizes. But you also need to forgive him–even if he’s never sorry. And part of forgiving someone is intercessory prayer for the forgiveness of their sins too. I won’t lie and tell you it’s easy.
If you are comfortable, I want to encourage you to pray scripture over your husband. It is so empowering, and it keeps our prayers in line with His Will not our selfish motives. Pray one for a week or the entire month. Alternate each day if you are highly organized 🙂 . Here is a list to start with, or you can add your own to this list as verses come to you.
- Love: Romans 8:28
- Fear: Proverbs 15:33
- Trust: Jeremiah 29:11
- Forgiveness: 1 Corinthians 13 and Ephesians 4:32
Never prayed scripture before? I’ll go first:
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
Father I lift up my husband to you right here and right now. I ask you to comfort him right now with the knowledge that you promise plans to prosper him. I place his fears in your all-powerful hands and ask that you cast them out and remind him that you have no plans to harm him. Right now as I pray for him, fill his heart with the warmth of your love, speak to his soul and remind him to trust you with whatever he is going through right now. Give him absolute and unshakable faith that you have hand picked his future–and thank you Father that you blessed me by making me a part of it.
In Your Son’s holy and precious name, Amen
What other verses did you find to pray over your husband?
When you are done, be sure to check out Praying For Your Husband: Discernment, Praying Your Husband Would Be In The Word, Praying For Your Husband: His Career And Work Ethic, Praying Over Your Husband’s Prayer Life, Praying For His Physical Needs, Praying Over His Worship, Praying Over His Finances. Pin them for future use if you’d like.