This month as we pray over our husbands, we’re focusing on pride and humility. These two characteristics couldn’t be more opposite from each other.
One characteristic is the “worst of all sins” which eventually lead to Satan’s fall.
The other is one of the descriptor words most used of Jesus Himself while He tabernacled here on earth among us.
With such strong denotations, it would be wise for us to concentrate on both for our husband’s. This month, let’s lift up our men (whether single or still waiting) to the Lord in these areas. Whether you’re single, engaged, or married, join us this month and every other to cover our men in prayer.
Pride is a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements. Even by the world’s definition, it has strong connotations. When we say someone is full of pride, we often think of a person who thinks highly of themselves–usually they value themselves or their skill(s) more highly than another.
As Christians, we can read the definition again and notice it’s focus on one’s own achievements–and not the achievements accomplished through God’s work. Certainly we can see the problem with pride–leaving out giving God the glory–and instead taking credit.
I’d say no Christian woman desires for her husband to disregard God’s hand in any accomplishment and instead lift one’s own works and/or skills up.
God defines humility for us in Proverbs. In the NIV, it states:
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4
If only looking at the world’s definition for humility, we see a totally different definition with a negative connotation. We may get the feeling that a humble man has no self-worth, is poor, has no accomplishment, and may even have a low self-esteem. Not so. This is not in God’s definition.
God states humility is the fear of the Lord. This is not the same as being afraid of the Lord. God is talking about a healthy fear of the Lord. A man who fears the Lord in the biblical sense has a respect for His holiness and His commandments. To fear the Lord is to respect that his personal thoughts and decisions have consequences in his relationship to his maker (in addition to the people around him).
A man who fears the Lord respects His Word and strives to obey it. This includes valuing others more highly than himself (Philippians 2:3). To value others above oneself does not necessarily mean a man has to have no self-worth, be poor, have no accomplishments or a low-self esteem.
Praying For Your Husband’s Humility
Are you single? Pray for your husband to grow in humility. Chances are most of your future husbands aren’t the most humble men on earth. All of us have room for improvement. Assume that your future man does too.
Many verses in the bible tell us that the Lord rewards the humble of heart. Go ahead and pray these verses over your husbands. There’s nothing wrong with claiming the rewards the Lord promises. He deserves good things from the Lord now even if you don’t even know him.
Pray for opportunities for your future husband to develop a deeper value of others and that the Lord would be working in him during these character building times.
Are you engaged? This is a time of great pressure for both of you. Is there a chance he is on top of the world knowing he’s going to marry a beautiful, intelligent, God-loving woman such as yourself? Yes, there is.
Pray that he would continue to value others above himself. This includes not being embarrassed around other singles, nor pitying them in their singleness. Pray he wouldn’t judge others for not being able to find a wife.
You are also in the unique situation of knowing your future husband. Should he have an issue with pride, you can pray for opportunity to grow in humility as well.
Are you married? On top of praying for opportunities for his growth in humility, you may also already be aware of any problems with pride he may have. It would be a good month to focus on these areas.
Should you be in an abusive relationship or facing infidelity issues, this may be something you’ve already prayed for your husband. Whether you have chosen to work things out in your marriage or get a divorce, I would encourage you to pray for your husband’s humility as well. However, I would highly encourage you to get a strong Christian woman to pray with you this month.
It can be tempting in either of these situations to pray for his humility in a selfish manner. It can be tempting to pray he would be humbled (by God’s judgement, perhaps?) rather than he would develop humility. This can be a very hard and very emotional road. Please get a strong female prayer partner to join you this month.
I will not say that this prayer will save your marriage. I want you to be safe, and I won’t give you a false hope. Give it to God Friends. Let Him heal you.
If you’ve been with us from the beginning, then you are used to praying scripture over your husband. If you’re just joining us, however, I’d encourage you to do what’s comfortable. The goal is to eventually pray for him every single day whether you’re married or not. Once you’ve got that down, move on to praying scripture over him.
Why do I encourage you to pray scripture? Because those are God’s Words. And there is power in God’s Word.
Here are some verses to pray over him this month. Pick one a week, or two for the month, or just one for the month. And if you pick a different one, let us know in the comments. I’d love to add to the list.
- Rewards for the humble: 1 Peter 5:6-7, James 4:10
- Grace extended to the humble: 1 Peter 5:5
- Lord to have pleasure in their humility: Psalm 149:4
- If he’s already prideful: 2 Chronicles 12:12, Psalm 18:27, Proverbs 11:2
In keeping with tradition, I’ll go first.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3
Holy, perfect Father, I want to lift my husband up to you today. I pray that you would specifically be working in his heart this week in the area of pride. May he be blazingly aware of all you are accomplishing through him, our marriage, and our family. I pray he would be humbled to give thanks over and over and over, never tiring.
I pray that the decisions he makes this month be done with Your will and the welfare and comfort of others in mind. I pray Lord that this month his humility would become more profound, and any pride in his heart would come to the surface to be dealt with.
I realize this could be uncomfortable Lord, so I also ask for strength for the both of us.
In Jesus name, Amen
One month Friends. It’s going to be a hard month.
If you’re new here, be sure to go back to the beginning and pin each month’s prayers so you’ll have them when you’re ready to move on:
- Praying Over Your Husband’s Heart
- Praying For Your Husband: Discernment
- Praying Your Husband Would Be In The Word
- Praying For Your Husband: His Career And Work Ethic
- Praying Over Your Husband’s Prayer Life
- Praying For His Physical Needs
- Praying Over His Worship
- Praying Over His Finances
- Praying Over His Integrity
Be sure to keep a list of verses in your prayer journal Friends.