A family’s structure can be weakened by a husband who, although he may be of godly character, lacks full trust that it is God who is providing for His family and not merely his own independent actions. Likewise, when our husband’s confidence of the Lord’s hand in making sure he provides for his family is unshakable, the entire family structure is strengthened.
It sounds so easy, but in reality this world is full of unemployment, rising healthcare costs, cars that break down, clothes that wear out and homes that must be kept up. A man’s role as provider for his family can be the number one stressor in his life if he lets it.
“Let go and trust God” is much easier said than done most of the time. So what is a wife to do to ease his burden?
She could get a job.
Sometimes this fixes a problem. Sometimes it’s only a temporary fix. Other times, it doesn’t take the problem away at all–it only changes the face of what the problem really is.
So what is a wife (or future wife) to do?
Two things: become empathetic–remember a time when you didn’t trust God. And pray.
Prayer is a wife’s best tool to strengthen her husband and her family.
Identifying Lies And Truths
The world tells us we need stuff. And once we have stuff, we need more stuff. And once you have stuff, it needs to be maintained, or (ideally) upgraded.
A man needs a position to be respected. The higher he is, the more he is worthy of respect–the better able he is to provide for his family.
But this is not what God says. The Lord states those who wish to be first, must be last. If a husband wants to lead his family, the best thing he can do is get low and serve the Lord. Unfortunately, men who serve God before their families are often looked down upon by the population at large.
It is hard to keep unshakable faith that God’s opinion matters more. And there is a difference between knowing something and having unshakable faith in it. We know His opinion matters most. We know He is the ultimate provider. We know He will always keep us in a place within His will and His plan if we let Him–but having that same faith when we are in that situation? That’s often a different story.
Our men are under attack from the world’s opinions. Lies are coming at them left and right. We should continue to encourage them and praise their faith. And we should also employ the far stronger tool of praying over them and their hearts.
Praying For Their Confidence In God
Single or married, your husband–wherever he is–is facing, has faced, or will face thoughts about how to provide for his family if he is a godly man.
As a loving wife, you want him to have full faith the Lord will provide his needs and your family’s as well. There is only so much a wife can do–especially if you haven’t met him yet. Our role as wife includes the loving task of praying over him.
Are you single? You have no idea this very day if the husband God chose for you is strong in faith, wavers occasionally, or is struggling to trust. But you can help build him up now so he is even stronger by the time you say “I do.”
Pray wherever your husband is right now that he would be given opportunity to grow his faith in the Lord’s provision now. The more deep-rooted his faith in God’s provision is right now, the more it will anchor him down the road when the two of you have started a family and things get shaky. (It happens to all of us at some time ladies.)
Pray for receptiveness in lessons the Lord is attempting to teach him.
Pray for revelation in his life that he may be able to think back to rough times in his past when the Lord has been the only one who brought him through. Recognition of the Lord’s hand in our past is a humbling and incredibly strong bonding act.
Are you betrothed? Recognize that you may or may not know of a weakness in this area for him. It takes years to get to know your husband, and all will not be revealed before marriage, no matter how open you are to each other.
After prayer, I’d encourage you to ask him how you can pray over this area of his life before your wedding. He may or may not know–that’s okay. Pray that any weakness here would be revealed to him. Pray that early in your marriage he will be comfortable telling you his prayer needs.
Are you married? The longer you’ve been married, the more likely you are to know how strong your husband’s faith in provision is. If you have been through a hard illness, financial loss, or emotional breakdown, then you know how his faith can be strengthened or wavered by such events.
Pray often that he would be in the Word, often and regularly since faith is obtained by seeing and hearing the word of God. The more he is spending regular quality time with the Lord, the deeper his faith.
Are you in a difficult place in your marriage? This may be hard to hear, but don’t pray your husband would feel guilt even if you feel he created a situation. Guilt is for religious people. Forgiveness is for godly women. If you feel this way, it may take everything in you (and many praying sisters in Christ) to help you let go. Do you want a religious husband? Or a godly one?
If you want a godly one, then pray instead for conviction in his heart if you really believe he is purposely dragging you into a worse situation.
If you instead are in a rough place where you aren’t feeling there is blame anywhere in your life, but you have accepted instead where you are in life, then supportive prayer is needed.
Pray he would surrender to His provision if he hasn’t. Pray he would hold onto his strong faith, or even grow during this hard time. It is our roughest patches in life that are meant to grow us the strongest and pull us closer to Him.
Pray that your husband would feel the arms of Jesus holding him up, and walking along side him.
If you are comfortable, I want to encourage you to pray scripture over your husband. It is so empowering, and it keeps our prayers in line with His will, not our selfish motives. Pray one for a week or this entire month. Alternate each day if you are highly organized. Here is a list to start with, or you can add your own to this list as verses come to you.
- Praying for a specific need: Philippians 4:19
- Working through faith issues: Jeremiah 29:11
- Stop depending on self: Psalm 127:2, Proverbs 3:5, Matthew 11:29
- Growing faith: Philippians 4:6, Philippians 1:6, Galatians 5:22-23
- Understanding God’s definition of needs: Hebrews 13:5, Romans 8:28, Colossians 3:1-4
- Coming through a faith trial: 1 Peter 1:7, Jude 1:24
But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19
Father in heaven, you know well the troubles my husband is facing today; those before my eyes and those hidden away in his heart. I don’t profess to know what they all are, and I know that my understanding of our needs is different than your perfect knowledge.
I ask today Lord that you firmly plant wisdom and understanding in my husband’s heart that although we do not know what you do about our real needs today, tomorrow, and thereafter that you hold us each in your all supporting and all supplying hands. I pray that he would be comforted knowing deep down that you not only can, but will supply all our needs according to Your riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
One month ladies, and then meet us back here.
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I hope to see you again next month.