Single, engaged, or married, a man needs the prayers of his wife (or future wife). This is where we come in Friends.
Ideally, we begin praying for and impacting his life before we even know who he will be. We continue to pray for him through betrothal. And once we are married, though we begin to pray for our marriages, we must not loose sight of continuing to pray selflessly just for him.
We are through eight months of prayer for him, and into the ninth month. This month we combine praying for his integrity, his temptations, and his circle of friends.
Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness if you will. A godly man is generally known for his honesty and strong moral principles–both when times are easy, but also when times are rough.
When there is nothing to hide, he is able to tell it like it is. But when the answer could be embarrassing or revealing of an undesirable trait or history, is he still honest? When it appears that certain entertainments of this world not only present an easy opportunity but also an almost guaranteed secretivity, does he give it a second thought?
We live in a world where you can have what you want. In fact, you are expected to go out and get what you want. Life is yours for the taking, right? Integrity to God is more than what you do and say. It’s also what your heart wants to do or say even if you don’t act upon it.
Where is our husband’s heart? How strong are his principles?
Strong hearts can weaken. Principles can develop loop-holes. We must always strive to lift up our husbands to keep them strong against temptations.
Not new to recent history, temptations are abounding. If something doesn’t appeal to you, there’s always another thing. And another thing. And another.
We live in a world that’s always looking for the next best temptation. Temptation in our day and age is largely (and sadly) celebrated. Those who don’t give in to it or even tease themselves may even develop a reputation as being “a prude” or “uptight.”
Even when we try to manipulate our environment to remove as many temptations as we can, cell phones and the internet are in nearly every home. One moment alone with one of these devices is all a man needs to look at things unhealthy for his eyes, connect with an unhealthy relationship on Facebook, access a gambling site, or any number of other temptations.
Largely, it would be hard for a man to “get caught” and he could easily feel less and less accountability.
Like it or not, there is something to be said about peas in a pod–which is not good news when we combine the adage opposites attract. Becoming friends with an opposite personality and then becoming more and more like them can be a harmful thing.
A friend is meant to sharpen another friend. If we want sharp husbands, we understand it is imperative that they be around the right sharpeners–other godly men. No matter how strong our husbands are, if they are regularly keeping company with others who are not godly, their “sharpening” will have an ungodly affect.
Are you single? Pray that wherever your husband is, that God would be shaping him to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which he has been called (Eph 4:1-2). Pray that right now he be drawn to other godly men–and that if he has friends that are unhealthy or temptations in his path that the Lord would strengthen him. Pray he would be lead away from temptations, and be drawn to godly men who would sharpen him.
Are you engaged? Pray that your future husband would stay focused on the things of God and not of this world. Even though this is a pivotal time in his life, if he isn’t keeping company with other godly men, it’s absolutely appropriate to pray he would be drawn to those friends now. It’s never a bad time.
Married? Temptations present in your marriage can tear your marriage apart even if you are unaware of them, and even if he is unaware of them. They absolutely need to go. Pray for guidance, wisdom and a veil of protection around your husband.
Pray also for his friends as mentioned above. Does he already have godly friends? Pray they will continue to give him godly counsel when needed, and that he will be receptive to the truths they speak into his life.
I’ve picked out five verses to pray over our husbands this month. Pick one for the month, or one for each week. I’ll be praying right along side you.
- Integrity: Proverbs 11:3, 1 John 1:7 and Ephesians 4:1-2
- Temptation: 1 Corinthians 10:13
- Godly Friends: Proverbs 13:20
Praying God’s words and promises over our loved ones is so powerful. I highly encourage you to pray scripture over your husbands if you don’t already. I’ll go first:
Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love… Ephesians 4:1-2
Father I lift my husband up to You again today. I ask that You continue to call his heart to a life of humility.
I ask that You bring him to awareness of the patience You have with him and that it would be used to train his heart to react to others with like patience and gentleness. I ask Father that You guide him in a tolerance for others. Help him model Your heart to others in his life–especially those he is challenged by.
I pray Lord that you teach him Your gentle ways. Guide his heart, mind and body to recognize all Your gentleness and be moved to reciprocate it to others.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Your turn Friends. One month of praying over his integrity.
Are you new to our Praying For Your Husband series? Feel free to jump in here or at any point. We have covered Praying For Your Husband: Discernment, Praying Your Husband Would Be In The Word, Praying For Your Husband: His Career And Work Ethic, Praying Over Your Husband’s Prayer Life,Praying For His Physical Needs, and Praying Over His Worship. It’s a lot to read, pray over, and catch up on all at once–feel free to pin them for future use if you’d like.