A man’s career can make or break a marriage. Without a steady job, there are worries and stresses that may lead to marital spats, or even talk of divorce.
On the other hand, a husband who has a demanding job or has a workaholic personality can also put the same stresses on a marriage.
Where is the happy medium and how to we help our husbands get there?
If you are just joining us, we are in the fourth month of our year-long journey of praying for our husbands–not our marriages per se–but him. It’s all about him. We are laying ourselves completely aside in an act of selfless love for our husbands. We are praying for the husband we have, the one we are engaged to, or the one we’ve never met. No matter where you are in life, there is no better time than now to pray for the individual man God created just for you and no one else.
If you haven’t read the introduction Praying For Your Husband, feel free to read through our goals first. Our first three sessions already published are:
- Praying For Your Husband’s Heart For Jesus
- Praying For Discernment And Leadership
- Praying He Would Read His Bible Daily
Feel free to join us at anytime during this journey. It is not important what day you start–only that you are indeed praying intentionally for your man. Grab a notebook, or whatever you’re keeping notes on, and join us.
Praying For His Career
A man without a job is hard on a marriage in our society. When you don’t have children and you are working, it may not be so bad that he is unemployed. But what if he is a spender? What if he keeps spending despite not having an income? Or what if he brought a ton of debt to the marriage?
People get married because they fall in love. One would think that they quit their marriages because the fall out of love. Not true. Communication and finances are the top culprits in divorce. “In richer and poorer” turns into “as long as it’s really just richer.”
Even godly marriages fall culprit to this. We somehow believe that through all the suffering and pain and worry we are going through, that leaving the man who turned our world up-side-down will fix things.
God does not permit divorce simply because one’s husband does not have a job. So our choices left are blatantly sinning by engaging in a divorce, suffering through it, loving him through it and/or interceding in prayer for him. God has so much more power than any of us–I trust Him to get us through! Will you?
If you are married to a man without a job, kick up the prayer! If you are married to a man with a steady and secure job, then you need this too. As a health care professional I always tell people the best cure is prevention. Want to make sure your husband keeps that job? Only God knows what the future holds–it would do you well to pray for security or a back-up plan.
Still single…then this will be a whole new world for you. You have no idea now what you’ll be getting into some unspecified time from now.
How does one pray for a job? Just ask for it? You could. But let’s go to The Word.
Proverbs 22:29 says a man skilled at his work will stand before kings, not men. If your man is skilled, he’s going places. Pray that your husband would recognize, appreciate, and have a heart to develop skills that are worthy to be shown to a king.
Genesis 39:2 states that Joseph prospered because the Lord was with him. Pray that the Lord will be with him during work, or secondary education, so that he will be prosperous.
But what if your husband is at the other extreme? What if he is a workaholic? He works long hours every day and just keeps trying to earn his way up to the kings… This can devastate a marriage just the same. Many women who find themselves in this situation will tell you, “It’s better to be lonely alone than lonely in a marriage.”
What does one pray in this situation?
If you are in this situation, you are probably tempted to pray that he would wake up, that he would love you (and your kids) more than his job. Maybe you pray that his hours would get cut. I have another suggestion for you. Pray Matthew 6:33 (also Luke 12:31) over him. A man that truly puts God first will put his family second. It may take time as he learns to re-prioritize.
Not married? Start first with asking God to draw his heart to Him and learn to completely put God first. Then move on to praying for identification and development of skills fit to display before a king. Pray for God’s continual presence in his career in addition to his “off” time.
Verses to pray over your husbands this month:
- Skills: Proverbs 22:29
- God’s hand/presence: Genesis 39:2
- Putting God first: Matthew 6:33 and Luke 12:31
You should be praying for him daily by now. If you have been regularly, I’d encourage you to pray scripture over him (one verse a week perhaps like I am?), and then just sit quietly.
God knows what your husband needs. Once you’ve conquered praying scripture over your husband, I’d encourage you to pray in the Holy Spirit over him. Give yourself quiet, listening time at the end of your prayer. If you get nothing, just say Amen and move on. But don’t be surprised if after you try this on a steady basis your heart is compelled to pray for something specific for him. Even if it feels silly, go with it and pray for what the Spirit prompts you to.
The LORD was with Joseph, so he became a successful man. Genesis 39:2
Lord Jesus, will you be with my husband right now? No matter what his heart is doing, would you please be with him if I beg you? Would you also send the Holy Spirit to beckon unto his heart for attention until he seeks you? Father I ask that you would woo him until he would seek you completely. And when he seeks you, will you then guide him in his work? Where ever he is and whatever he is doing, would you bless his hands? And bless the work his hands do. Please always guide him and be an ever-presence to him. And would you use the work that he does to bless his employer?
Thank you father for taking care of this man you have set apart just for me. I trust him in your all-knowing and all-loving hands.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
Be faithful to your husband by being faithful in your prayer. And come back next month as we pray for his prayer life.