I tend to find that most houses I go into are well kept. Even so, the greeting I receive at the door tends to be followed by, “Please excuse the mess.” I used to think it was just a sign of humility from the host.
But as I paid more attention to these women, I began to notice the fatigue and overwhelmed aura underneath. For some of us housewives, we are failing to keep our houses clean. And some of us are failing to make our house a home.
Why? Here are a few reasons for both:
1. Social Media
Ok. So everyone saw this one coming. How many times have you been fretful that something wasn’t done? wasn’t cleaned? wasn’t put away? wasn’t prepared on time? And…how many times could you actually complete this sentence: “I just saw on Facebook ________________________”? Yeah… me to…
2. Taking On Too Much
How often are you absolutely amazed at how much another woman gets done and you are left feeling like what you’ve got done doesn’t even compare?
I think we’ve all been there.
The truth is, if she only saw the picture-perfect parts of your life, she would probably be amazed at you and left feeling like she couldn’t compare.
When we seek to become Christlike, we are seeking to be humble too. As we grow in our humility, we tend to see even more of the best in other people–which is a good thing. What is not a good thing is when we start to compare ourselves and start to think we aren’t good enough.
We are good enough. Remember, Christ tells us
My yoke is easy and My burden is light. Matthew 11:30
We need to drop burdens that are not given to us from the Lord.
Television is a double culprit. It first takes our time away. Are you watching a biblical study, or documentary on how to improve your gardening skills? It may be worth the time. But more often, it is just a time waster.
Television, second, is a big part of why we feel inferior and are left feeling we should be doing more. We don’t need to try to be the woman on T.V. We only need to be the woman God called us to be.
4. Avoiding the issues
I have done this one so many times. If there is something I don’t like doing, I tend to leave it “til last” and then it never gets done. I may have the time to fold all that laundry, but I keep finding other, more pleasant, things to do instead.
5. Lack of a good role model
I have some friends right now who are struggling to be homemakers simply because they didn’t have anyone to teach them. For whatever reason, they didn’t have a mother in the home who was showing them how to clean properly or teaching them to budget their time.
It is harder to learn to change your way of life as an adult than it is for a child.
Finding out what our pitfalls are is the first step to defeating them. And once you’ve defeated them, keep them in the back of your head to keep from slipping again.
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