It’s painful. Lonely. Confusing.
It’s inconvenient earlier in life. But at some point as all our friends become engaged, married, pregnant and then become parents, it’s no longer just inconvenient. Now it’s…well…unfair.
How do all these women get their happily-ever-after while some stay single?
The Lord had different plans for all of us… But the truth is, mankind messed that up a long time ago. The resultant pains that we feel are a result of our own rebellion. Am I telling you that if you’re single today it’s because you deserve to be single? Not at all.
We all messed this world up and we all suffer in different ways.
If you are single and reading this, I’m sure you understand there are a multitude of reasons you could be single.
There are some women who have done this to themselves–perhaps they married out of rebellion and then left a marriage because it wasn’t all they wanted it to be. There are definitely some of these women out there.
There are some women who have trust issues with God. Maybe He’s asking you, “Will you trust Me?” or “How long will you trust Me?” Perhaps He will reward you when you finally give Him all your trust and not a moment sooner.
There are some women out there who have obedience issues with God. Perhaps He is waiting for you to let go of your self-driven “I will” ways and depend on Him.
I could continue with so many reason you may be single and still waiting. (I want to make it clear I do not believe that married women don’t have these issue–as many do.)
But specifically today I’d like to share a thought with you on remaining single.
Do you know who Frances Jane van Alystyne (“Franny Crosby”) is? She is most famous for being a blind hymnist. She wrote volumes of hymns I’m sure you’ve heard of. My favorite is Blessed Assurance (1873). When asked one time about being blind, her answer was
“It seemed intended by the blessed providence of God that I should be blind all my life, and I thank him for the dispensation. If perfect earthly sight were offered me tomorrow I would not accept it. I might not have sung hymns to the praise of God if I had been distracted by the beautiful and interesting things about me. If I had a choice, I would still choose to remain blind…for when I die, the first face I will ever see will be the face of my blessed Saviour.”
I don’t know about you, but I am so impressed with Frances. What you and I would never dream of she considered a gift. What you and I consider a desire, she considered a distraction from her Lord.
Eye sight is what we desire (or even taken for granted). Yet is shows us imperfections–sometimes very ugly things. And ultimately, it could be what distracts us from God.
For many women, a husband is desired (or even taken for granted.) Husbands are imperfect–and sometimes very ugly people. Ultimately, a husband could be what distracts a woman from God.
When I wonder why some women who are attractive, sweet, smart, intelligent and [insert desirable adjective here] are single; I think of Frances. Perhaps it is a gift. Perhaps the Creator of all things good has set these women aside for himself and no-one else.
We live in a world driven by desires. Perhaps the Lord saves us from desires that would ultimately lead us away from Him. Perhaps He is saving us without our even knowing.
Is there a more beautiful gift than this?